Have you ever gotten lost in "what if" thinking?
Is your "what if" thinking usually positive?
Not mine! Mine often sounds/looks like this:
What if it totally fails?
What if it fails and my super successful friends find out?
What if it fails and my kids find out?
What if it fails and I’ve wasted all these days and months of my life working on it and now I have to start over and I don’t even know what to do next?
AHHHH but how might this sound if you were to (at least also) “what if” your way to more positive thoughts – if only to remain somewhat neutral overall lol.
What if it totally succeeds?
What if it succeeds and my super successful friends find out?
What it if succeeds and my kids find out?
What if it succeeds and I’ve invested all these days and months of my life working on it and now I have this wonderful success to build on… and I don’t even know how big to allow myself to dream now?
Thinking of the potential of success clears the way to thinking about how we might make things happen. So, just for today, when you have a negative thought (I can help ya come up with some if you need me to – I’m an expert… and have for sure spent more than 10,000 hours working on this expertise. I’m now working on the 10,000 hours of positive what-iffing lol).
What if you tried this for a week?
Or a lifetime?
The best of times, the worst of times - which will this year's holidays be for you? Taking the road less travelled may be your best way to start the New Year!
I know that I approach the holidays with equal parts excitement - I really, really love it … the music, the people around me and excuses to get together, the gifting and focus on others… and the food… That’s the other part. The holidays fill me partly with trepidation because they can so easily, at least for me, become a time where I take less than stellar care of myself. I let myself go a bit on the eating, I take fewer steps and get outside less, I get to sleep later, I spend more, I meditate… oh, maybe even not at all!
So this year, I am approaching the holidays with a plan. If you know me, you know that my plans have become looser and gentler over the years… thank goodness, because the last thing I really need is to chart it all when I eat some chocolate instead of loading up on salad (yes, I know that in theory I could do both but let’s face it, that’s NOT the way it typically happens for me). This year, I’m working on taking better care of myself and the first part of that is being gentle with me… What does this look like? I am going into the season with the intention of really being kind to myself! Of checking in to see what I need, especially when it get a bit (or a lot) crazy. To do this, I personally do best with a daily practice. So, with my morning coffee (and along with my other morning routine items like daily gratitude), I am adding a moment to reflect on what it is that would make the day healthy and nurturing for me. My usual deal with any practice is that it can’t take more than 5 minutes or I won’t do it. So, as well as this item taking less than 5 minutes, I’m going to make a deal with myself that whatever I choose to do for myself on this day ALSO will take less than 5 minutes (it can take more, of course, but I want to know that I can make things better without letting my brain invent a ton of excuses, which it absolutely will if I give it a chance!).
To make it even easier, I’m setting aside a few minutes today (and invite you to do the same) to brainstorm some easy, simple, cheap things that make me feel good and pampered and cared-for. Here goes:
- Lighting a candle (in the morning with my coffee and/ or in the evening or when I’m working… I LOVE a candle)
- Drinking my coffee in a favorite mug – I admit that I love drinking out of a handmade mug (either one of mine or from another artist)
- Forcing a hug on one of my teens lol
- Taking three deep breaths
- Sitting in the sunshine (on the relatively few sunny days we have lol) or going outside to stand or walk in the sunshine
- Taking a bath
- Patting the dog
- Taking a nap
- Making art
Over to you… I invite you to come up with your own list of quick and healthy ways to treat yourself well… every single day.